The Write Way to Help Others

pexels-photo-1I love writing and I love why I write. I have a system and process that works. I don’t wake up at a set hour and begin writing, nor do I write eight hours a day. That’s not exactly how it works for me. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night and continue writing with one piping cup of tea after another. I write when it hits me, even if I dig my toes into the cool sand and listen to the ocean waves while I tap on my keys. When my thoughts are stirred and I’m motivated to develop a story, I write. But why, is another story.

Today, I write with passion and purpose, but initially, it was for freedom. It was my way of freeing myself from the burden I carried from one year to the next without realizing the damage it created. At times, we become prisoners of our thoughts, which is why I found writing to be cathartic. When I began taking everything I held inside of me and placing the words on paper, I experienced an innovative transformation and a great sense of relief. The burden of my history was gone. When I typed my last page, it represented the end of an era that I had lived in for too long. I could serenely breathe and move on.

From that point, I realized there are countless people who need to do what I have accomplished if solely for the emotional release and comprehension that honest writing can bring. Whether or not the writing is published is your choice. It’s the process that is restorative. Writing out feelings, ideas, and thoughts to express whatever has been a burden to your soul can be a tremendous release. It can create a point where you can begin again with clarity.

The beauty of writing is that it caused me to have a deeper reflection of my life. I analyzed situations from a perspective I was incapable of doing years prior. In a sense, it was as if maturity helped me to understand my history, who I am, and how I got this way. I loved what I learned about myself and I use it to help others.

Writing inspires and motivates people on many levels and a variety of subjects. The books that I select to ghostwrite are from clients that want to add powerful elements of positivity to the world. My writing is meant to help people learn something that I want to share or that others want me to express for them. After all, it’s our responsibility to share what we know to help others avoid adversity, deep pitfalls, or simply gain knowledge about something that can help them throughout their journey. It doesn’t matter if it helps them build or grow a business or heal and develop in their personal life; writing is about teaching people the lessons that life taught us.

 

Here are a few reasons why writing is beneficial:

-It is cathartic or healing

-To educate or help others

-For passion or creativity

 

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For questions about ghostwriting, consulting, and publishing, please contact Jeff@seraphbooks.com or call (866) 861-2442.

Without Judgment

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Most of the time we think we know people but is our judgment an accurate and fair assessment? Just because it’s a family member, friend, co-worker, or someone you routinely come in contact with it doesn’t mean you know what their reality is. People have problems or situations that they don’t share. If they do, it may not be the complete version. Some people keep their personal life private; they don’t believe anyone will care or can help them. Sometimes, they don’t want to be judged. Instinctively, most people are quick to judge, but that judgment can keep you from showing compassion, especially when it may be needed most.

We have the tendency to forget how blessed we are and that others may be going through a period of need. When we walk by a person digging through the garbage, trying to find something to eat, would you buy them something or ignore their plight? Can you imagine the difference that each of us could make if we did an act of kindness in a kind, non-judgmental way? We don’t know what we think we know about others. And we can be quick to determine the reason someone is homeless, struggling financially, quiet, withdrawn, or struggles with their academics. We don’t know if they have health issues, are dealing with a loss of a loved one, or depressed. We don’t know.

Since most of us have the inability to get into someone’s entire history and understand why, what, or when something may have happened that caused their situation, we should be without judgment. If we are going to offer our help, we should do it without condemnation. We never know the reason, season, or lessons that will come in our life and kindness offers much more than that individual may have at that moment in time. It could change or save a life. Find a way to make a difference without judgment. We owe it to ourselves to be a contributor to a kinder, more compassionate society.

Love Has The Ability…

When you think about how much you invest in loving someone else, it is quite surprising to find how much of yourself you can lose in the process. You may not realize it at first, but in time, you will. You are no longer living for yourself the same way as before. Your schedule changes, the way you think, care, and worry. Although loving someone is effortless, there is effort that goes into making sure that the person you fell in love with knows it with certainty. The amount of time you spend on yourself and the things you enjoyed may decrease and that’s okay when you are growing together and sharing his or her interests.

Is it worth it? What happens when you invest in doing everything you can but you are not the recipient of the same type of love you give freely? After everything you’ve given up, changed, shared and tried to do in order to make the one you love happy, you feel empty or that it was for nothing. Are you angry? Do you feel betrayed?

I believe that love is subjective and no one can dictate how you will come to love someone, who you will love, or why that person will even garner your attention but that gift belongs to you. Love has the ability to make the other person and those around you think that it is your weakness when in fact the ability to love is strength. Your compassion, or willingness to help someone through difficulties, doesn’t mean you are weak; it simply means that you love and feel profoundly enough to care, or want the best for someone. However, they may not understand it at that time. The ability to love is a gift that should not be manipulated or taken for granted. Sometimes, people need what they need for that moment and release it when that time becomes fleeting but don’t allow love to ever leave you. Many times, people forget that having the capacity to love is a gift from God.

 

 

Love Includes Honest Communication

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Love can be complicated and truly loving someone means you want what is best for those you love. Sure, the good times are great, but there will come those occasions that require your ability to deliver honest communication even when it is not often appreciated. Although it may hurt, you may be the only person that keeps them balanced or acknowledging reality when they need it most. Allowing someone to continue on a path that is detrimental to his or her well-being is not love.

Sometimes that destructive behavior is concealed, however, being tuned into someone will allow you to detect unhealthy or inconsistent changes in behavior or habits. If someone is hurting, they may be searching for something or someone to help distract them from their pain or to help find a resolve. Let them find you there until they trust you enough to submit to being helped properly. Continue to love them so they get it and realize your beautiful role in their life.

      3 Indicators it’s Time to Talk

  • Passion turns to frustration
  • Plagued with a lingering sadness
  • A preference to be alone if it is not typical behavior

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If you note that they need professional help or if you are unsure, recommend that they seek it or help them find it. Love cares through the best and worst of times.

Love can see what most cannot. –Marala Scott