The ties that bind are sometimes the very ties that tear us apart, yet we stay within the proximity to allow the pain to continue on the path causing destruction. Because someone is family doesn’t mean that you should allow them to continuously plant deep seeds of negativity that will grow deeper roots of anger and discouragement inside of you. Although family is supposed to be our lifeline of encouragement, trust, protection, and love it doesn’t always turn out that way. It doesn’t mean you are bound to accept their ways as the way it is supposed to be either. You are not meant to remain a victim and let it wear you down until you can’t function to the capacity you are destined. There is much more to life than waking up each day to fight against those you love. Sometimes, a breath of fresh air and a move towards independence is liberating. Although it may seem difficult to do, it is self-destructive to continue taking. Progressing away from family, if done with positive intentions to better yourself and life as a whole, can be healing for all. It will allow you time to grow, reflect, and understand. You may never know where someone’s pain comes from but you will come to realize that his or her pain is not meant to be yours. This life is a journey and the journey is your individual imprint. Use your powerful prayers to bring God’s favor in order to help them heal.

Hard Work + Faith = Success

22 thoughts on “The Ties That Bind Can Tear Us Apart

  1. Very nice blog post. I definitely love this website.
    Continue the good work!

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  3. Power comes from understanding perspectives. Those you may love can cause stress that can keep you from progressing. Thank you for sharing. I pray things are progressing. xo

  4. Very true point and you made this point to me last year , and sometimes trying with someone who isnt trying is just as draining. This is confimation that I am doin the right thing~!

  5. This is one of the REALEST post yet… We all know some people that we won’t/shouldn’t associate with due to some very undesirable characteristics they posses… Well in most cases those people have family and that family might be YOU! LOL… It’s never easy to separate from blood but keeping focus on the betterment of yourself is key. “Hard Work + Faith = Success” <- Indeed! Love it!

  6. I can honestly say through prayer and some support …I’m starting to understand. Thank you for reading:)

  7. Dr. Scott ~ God bless you and many, many thanks for writing this article, which has served as another confirmation that getting away from my family and the negativity was the right thing for me. The first confirmation I received was word that certain family members were “resentful” by my move. However, you said it best, and I agree: I am shaping MY life, not them. No longer will I accept stress, foolishness, betrayal and mistreatment JUST because we are family. I am not a victim, I am a victor!

  8. Natalie,
    Thank you for reading my post. Stop struggling and make a choice to be happy without feeling guilty.

    This life is your journey. Many can critique it but the results are yours. -Marala Scott

  9. This hit home for me! I have been struggling with this reality for quite some time. It is definitely difficult to grasp that sometimes you have to put yourself first! It is still something I am working on. Thank you for this because it was very comforting to me!

  10. Josie,

    Thank you for sharing as this is true. Being around encouraging people can make a huge difference in your progress. I love your insight. xo

  11. I respect that you realize it can be done. It doesn’t mean you stop loving them. It is good that you accept this truth. Thank you for sharing! xo

  12. It took me a long time to accept this truth and understand it. It can be difficult but it also can be done.

  13. Brenda, this is exactly what the article is about. Many people remain a victim to the negativity that family can bring (intentional or unintentional) and accept it because it is their family. However, the changes you’ve made doesn’t mean you don’t love your family anymore, it simply means you weren’t going to live under the stress and negativity you were prior. You are shaping your life not them. I am proud of you for the changes you’ve made. Thank you for sharing! xo

  14. Very true Cassandra. It is a difficult situation to be in however, when it happens that’s when decisions need to be made. Sometimes, loving them from a distance is the solution. xo

  15. This article is so deep, so real and so true! It speaks directly into my life. Recently, I relocated to another state, to get away from family and the negativity. I simply refuse to lose my soul behind foolishness. As a result of relocating, my life has changed tremendously. I am no longer stressed, my hair is growing, my appetite is back, I’ve gained some MUCH needed weight and my relationship with Jesus has reached a new and deeper level. I know in my heart that moving away was the right decision. I made a vow to the Lord on New Years Eve 2011, that 2012 was going to be a year of “Order” and “Letting Go”, and beginning January 2012, I started letting go of PEOPLE, PLACES and THINGS and so far, it has proven to be a TREMENDOUS benefit for my spirit, my soul and my LIFE! I love my family, but other than love and prayer…..that is all I can do for them. I had to CUT “The Ties That Bind” and move on. #Freedom

  16. …allow you time to grow, reflect, and understand… ur words my thoughts lol

  17. There is no hurt greater than when a family betrays or hurts you. We don’t get to choose our family, yet we love them from a distance because they are still our famiy.

  18. I think a lot of people need to read this. Family today isn’t really like it used to be. There are so many kids that aren’t be guided or don’t have the support that they should. We just have to know who to surround ourselves with because others can either encourage us or bring us down.

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