Many times people keep ties or close relationships with family members that are emotionally unhealthy because they feel they don’t have anyone else or they are supposed to simply because it’s family. Although it’s often said that, “blood is thicker than water,” to the contrary, water is more pure and so are many relationships that are not of your blood.

It’s one thing to love your family in a healthy manner but to have love out of obligation that is only masked behind hate, anger, and resentment is detrimental. Whether it’s you carrying resentment or other family members throwing a series of jabs, if you can’t work it out you’re really doing yourself and them a disservice.

Fighting to keep your relationship intact just to continuously fight brings damaging emotional results, as well as, much wasted time. Make conscious efforts to work towards resolutions and compromise to alleviate stress. If there is something standing in the way of a better relationship with your family that you or they don’t feel can be resolved, then step out of the fight. You may never agree, which means the battle will be ongoing.

Putting your energy into healthy relationships can often bring you more peace, love, and support. God puts good people in your life so appreciate them as you would family because family isn’t always of the same blood. People that love you, show respect, help you thrive, encourage faith, and believe in you are those you hold onto and do the same for.  Don’t stay in a relationship to cause hurt or take it. Sometimes space brings time to reflect and ultimately appreciation.

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  1. I agree very much so. I used to feel guilty because I didnt think it should be that way. But when I am able to go to a friend and not feel as if I have to pretend to be someone else it makes it much better. Its a good feeling to know that this person (friend) could be tactful, firm, loving and tell me the truth when I need to hear it without, damaging or being toxic. There is a difference. Now with reading this, and growing older, I have come to realize that its nothing wrong with it. Thank you so much for confirming this, it makes me feel much better and now I dont have to feel guilty. God bless.

  2. Mandy, I love that you said it’s better to acknowledge the truth because that’s what this is about. Often, we don’t want to accept what is right in front of us. Having family doesn’t mean they act like family should. Many times, friends fill that void with sincerity. Thank you for your comments. I hope you visit my blog again. xo

  3. I love this article because I consider my best friend to be my family too. And family can really be anyone as long as there is love, respect, and encouragement (among other things). I know that in my own family…i look up to my mom more than anyone and i feel like shes all i have…but honestly all i need is her and God. Its better to acknowledged the truth and i feel like ive done that. Thank you so much for sharing this!!!

  4. That is so true…thanks for sharing looking forward to reading your next blog.

  5. Thank you Nicole. This is something that people need to recognize without feeling guilty. Flesh and blood doesn’t mean they are healthy influences for you or those you love. I hope you return again. Thank you for your comment. xo

  6. Sooooo true!!!! I was just talking to my best friend about this! He and his husband (yes husband) are being bashed by his in laws. It is so sad to hear the names his “flesh & blood” as they call themselves, call him. He is such a good and kind man and i am glad he has us blood or not family is what u make it. Excellent blog Marala!!!!!!

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